Most football fans have finally stopped cheering/grumbling/talking/ about the New York Jets win over the New England Patriots due to the enforcement of a new rule in the NFL that went against the Pats. However, an incident after the game may very well eclipse all the brouhaha over the controversial call.
Videos of a male Jets fan punching a female New England fan have gone viral over the past couple of days. One of the videos of the altercation starts with the alleged attacker, wearing a Wayne Chrebet (No. 80) Jets jersey, is being pulled away from a fight in progress. It is not clear how the initial altercation began, but a woman, wearing a Patriots T-shirt in the videos, steps forward to confront the alleged attacker and tries to push him, before he responds with a punch to the left side of her head.
If you’re interested in more details of the event, you can Google it. This post is not about the above incident in and of itself, but about the adage that “it is NEVER okay for a man to hit a woman”.
First, let me preface all else I am about to say with the following: It is not acceptable for anyone to hit anyone. Regardless of gender, there should never be an acceptable time for someone to use violence to solve a problem. And please note that I said should. Unfortunately, we do not live in a white knight world and there are certainly exceptions to that rule.
As a mother of two sons (now adults), I am well aware some women, safely cocooned in the belief that the man will always be considered at fault should he physically hurt her, will use that to their advantage and push, goad, provoke and/or physically attack a man. Knowing such, I fully admit I could not teach my sons such a hard and fast absolute.
I’ll refer to men/women here because it is easier to use the hetero standard, but this applies regardless of orientation. People have to realize not all women are defenseless and not all men are necessarily stronger than their partner. On the flip side, the physically smaller partner is not necessarily the weaker one, especially when there is any sort of weapon involved.
If the woman is yelling and screaming – let her. You know what’s reasonable and what’s not.
If it’s starting to piss you off that you’re even thinking of doing something physical, it’s time for you to either a) leave for an hour or so to call down or b) leave temporarily and consider whether or not it is time to c) leave permanently.
However, if she’s coming at you with a cast iron skillet or a pot of hot cooked grits (some of you will get that reference), and you by that look in her eyes that tells you she means business – what you both did so wrong that it got to that extreme point and what should be done to fix it, if it can be fixed – can be figured out later – you very much have the right to knock her on her ass, but ONLY ENOUGH FOR YOU TO GET TO SAFETY.
If your partner/significant other/spouse is beating the crap out of you, you should be able to defend yourself enough to get to safety, until the police arrive if necessary, regardless of gender.
When it comes to my sons, the only person allowed to even attempt to take them off this earth is the one who brought them into it, and I have told them as much.
Swinging this back around to the incident on Sunday…
The controversial call that that cost the Patriots the game/gave the Jets was likely the first spark to heated words between the fans. I’m sure once all the investigation comes out; there likely were copious amount of beer involved on both sides further kindling an already contentious rivalry between both teams and their respective fans. He (the alleged attacker) is just wrong.
- Regardless of what kicked-off the initial altercation.
- Regardless that she was yelling at him and even ran up and tried to push him.
- Regardless that she was able to just shake it off.
She had no weapons and posed no physical threat to him as he was nearly twice her size. Were this between two men, 1) this would not come up for discussion and 2) he would still be just as wrong.
As all parents tell their offspring at some point while raising them – which many seem to forget upon reaching adulthood:
KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF.
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