Time Keeps On Slipping…

March has been an odd month for me these past few years —

Except for the staunchest of my winter loving friends, most of us in the Northern Hemisphere have all reached our saturation point of cold and snow by now and want it all gone already. The hope of the longed for First Day of Spring finally arriving lightens my mood.  Even though there is still several inches of snow on the ground, with more expected tonight, the thought of soon being able to put my down coat away for the season warms me immensely.

Of course, there is celebrating the birth of my first-born. Like all mamas of adult children I can still see the wide-eyed sparkle of those newborn eyes brought home oh so many years ago in the very eyes that roll, yet again, in some annoyance that I’ve -probably  happily – inflicted upon them.  Pretty much as I am sure I will do so again tonight when we meet up for birthday dinner. I’m Mom – it’s in the unwritten job description.

What has caught me off guard this year is what usually has been at the forefront of my mind on March 1st, these past few years.  I got to today, March 3rd, before the now 9th anniversary of my late-husband’s passing registered. I mean, it is not as if I did not know it was coming, after all his birthday – only a couple of weeks ago – is an automatic reminder.  Not to mention, I’ve had nearly a decade of it now. Yet the day itself came and went without so much as a blip to my conscience. I only noticed this morning, because someone else brought him up in conversation, that I had not noticed it even in passing thought. It truly was just another day.

I am not sure how I feel about that.

One hand, it is as clear-cut of a sign as can be that I no longer grieve for him. But, in reality, I stopped grieving years ago, because I am not the kind to wallow in such an emotion for so long before I make my own self sick of it. Which is a good thing, I know it is.  Still, there is this tiny little part of me that for the first ever wonders does it mean that I am slowly forgetting him? And while that bothers me just a little, very much like the month of March, my emotions on this are a fluid thing.

It has been nine years – isn’t it the way it should be? I think so, I think…

After all, how long do I continue to mark time in this way? Yet only a few days ago I was conversing with a friend about a certain point in recent time and what was my immediate point of reference? Whether or not Bill was around at that point and to calculate from there.  Clearly, I have not forgotten him and won’t be anytime soon.  Yet March 1st came and went without thought of him. Didn’t think that would happen either.

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4 thoughts on “Time Keeps On Slipping…

  1. I am waiting for the first day of Spring when Rita’s Italian Ice opens with free ice for everyone who stops in. I don’t care if there is snow on the ground and I have to sit in a heated car wearing gloves to eat my ice. I will be there.

    As for a date not registering, I have not lost a spouse but have lost several family members. I don’t always register the anniversary date, but I do often think of them many other times throughout the year. They will never be forgotten.

  2. I really enjoyed your post. It had a nice flow to it. I giggled a bit at the eye rolling of the grown kids (yes, I get it). As for March 1 – I think it’s healthy that you didn’t dwell on it. Obviously you remember Bill – but it doesn’t consume you and take over your world… a healthy thing, I think.

  3. I remember a post I read of yours. I went looking for it, but couldn’t find it. Your words were so powerful…something about hands, a porch, standing in a slip…does any of that ring a bell? You will never forget Bill, but now you’ll remember more of the good days and not dwell on the day you lost him.

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