You don’t mess up often, Rai, but when you do, you apologize and fix it quick. I like that about you.
My zodiac sign, Virgo, has the reputation of being a perfectionist. Yes, I try my damnedest to ensure I’m correct in everything, because in the words of Elton John:
Oh, it seems to me, “Sorry” seems to be the hardest worrrrrd.
I abhor being at fault, let alone apologizing for it. So I try to avoid being put in a situation where that must occur like the plague.
Even when I’m purposely being offensive in a very mean way with my favorite tool of choice – cutting sarcasm – if I had to go there as the kids say it was very likely you earned it. So I’m not at fault, let alone sorry for hand delivering your just deserts. Granted, I am a Virgo raised by southern women – your just desserts will be served on silver platter with a lace doily and a shipload of mint julep charm, but it will be served.
Still, while I am a perfectionist, I’m not perfect. Thus, on those rare occasions I find myself in the position of being genuinely wrong (clutches non existent pearls!), I do believe in falling on my sword.
I have what I call the Sorry Triple A Plan: Apologize. Accept. Act.
Apologize: The actual “I’m sorry” part of this. I try not say I’m sorry unless I truly am. “I’m sorry my delay in response created such problems on your end.”
I prefer I apologize. “I apologize for the inconvenience”.
Accept: When I know it’s my fault, I try to let person know that I understand where I felt I went wrong and register the damage and/or hurt done.
“I was awaiting response from my team. I should have kept you abreast of the situation so you could inform your team, but I did not. I should have handled that better.”
Act: Where what I do speak louder than what I say. I seek to make amends to ease whatever stress/issues may have arisen due to my actions.
“I can offer a/b/c in light of my mistake. What would be preferable to you to work this out and ensure we’re on good ground to not let this occur in the future?”
I ensure I follow through on my deliverables in a timely fashion – if it’s at work. In my personal life I make sure I keep my word on whatever resolution. In either case I do my damnedest to not let whatever it was occur again.
That being said, I don’t wallow in it. I messed, I’ve apologized, we’ve worked it out. Do not bring it up again. No one likes dead horses except the glue factory, let’s move along.
Unless you want me to be clever but devastating, that is.
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Very reflective and thoughtful. I like the Sorry Triple A Plan as well.
Thank you, Georganna,
I find that more and more people today, at least the ones I encounter and those you see on the news, are more willing to point a finger an place blame on someone else rather than accept responsibility for what they have done. Owning up to mistakes builds character.
I agree, thanks.
You’ve really reflected on this situation! I felt like I had a front row seat in your mind! I loved the ending, “No one likes dead horses except the glue factory, let’s move along.” This is so true!