4 comments on “Judge Not, Lest Ye…

  1. Discrimination hurts. I read this and got so angry, because I know exactly what you are saying. Discrimination and rejection has touched me in different forms based on not so much my weight (tho my parents and sister annoy me about it) but about my social life. I could not attract a female to save my life when I was younger. They avoided me like the plaque. I was always plump – and I read a lot, and I have glasses. Socially inept. For me, I could not – and still can’t – watch shows like the now defunct “Family Matters” because of the Urkel references. I realize that, in mainstream media, when the person is a bumbling fool, or someone who everyone laughs at or pitied, the person a lot of the time had glasses. And invariably if that was the case – if the person became cool – THE GLASSES CAME OFF.

    I had to go outside of my country to find a woman who accepted me for ME. It’s been great, but the strain of long distance relationships … sometimes I wish I could have found someone less judgemental a bit closer, you know?

    But seriously, I know where you are going with your post. The media has a lot to do with public perception. Why do they focus on her weight? Why do smart ppl always have to take their glasses off to be sexy? It is fucking annoying. I realize this is the first time we’ve chatted on something other than poetry, but I feel you on this. Real talk.

  2. I appreciate the glasses angle, but some who wear glasses can be looked at as both smart and sexy here – the whole “hipster glasses” look which befuddles me greatly, notwithstanding – if they are small and attractive to the subjective eye of the beholder. Whereas fat is rarely ‘phat’ regardless of eyesight except among a select few.

    Ah Bajan, we could go back and forth on this for a really long time and come away with naught by but dry throats (aching fingers?), and a bigger boatload of personal frustration of just how fucked-up this is.

  3. Yeah I know … tired fingers and dry throats. Coz yes ppl have ‘hipster glasses’ but I guarantee you won’t see hipster glasses in my prescription. LOL It isn’t as much equating glasses to size as is was sharing a common discrimination issue. Coz I have had my share of size comments, too. But, regardless of origin, discrimination is truly fucked up. Anyhow, what I sayin’ is I got you babe. I totally understand everything you say. The media is to blame for the proliferation and strengthening of disgusting stereotypes. What can we do about it? Sometimes all I feel we can do is suffer in silence. 😦

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