14 comments on “Raivenne’s Phone Etiquette:

    • I have certain friends who look at me as though I am more insane than usual when I dare to remind them how we had perfectly fine lives and were actually happy gosh darn it! I have absolutely no problem with shutting it all down every now and then. Thanks Charles.

  1. I’m so with you on this as well. If I have a phone, it’s for MY use and I don’t owe it to anyone to give in to their demands especially when it’s over nothing. I think a lot of people are ignorant of ANY etiquette and it’s a shame because it’s all about respecting yourself and others. I only make one except to the times I can be called. I have ONE friend who likes to wake me up every morning, so he can call me whenever but other than that, no exceptions but for emergencies.

  2. Wait, (*cough vortex cough*)? Unless you’ve started using that phrase with people other than Hobbit Central, not sure what you mean. I haven’t complained. We go quite a while, then it’s Vortex City. Way it is. N’est-ce pas?

    I agree with most of the above, but I’ve always been baffled by one of them. Why do people think it’s such a no-no to talk on the phone in public or on public transport? I get being annoyed if the person is yelling, or saying “What? What? Can you hear me now?” as that pulls focus, but I speak in a normal or slightly quieter tome of voice, and never say anything I wouldn’t say if the person were right there with me. People wouldn’t complain if that person were there and we were having the conversation, so why is it a crime to cut half of it? People can’t stop from eavesdropping? Isn’t that at least partly on them? I don’t go on and on forever, as it’s harder to hear anyway, and I don’t raise my voice, but public means public- excessive noise is one thing, but I don’t understand the stricture that one must maintain total silence unless you have someone else physically with you. Just don’t get it.

    • Thanks Q. Oh fret not my honey of a Hobbit! It was my pseudo apology for the incredibly long (in my opinion), amount of time that passed betwixt vortexting. Thoust art my only vortex, I sweareth!

      As for my personal public ban – I should first note the above or my rules for me. It was not to imply I expected or hoped anyone to follow suit, just simply explaining why I behave as I do phone usage wise. – There are people who can carry on perfectly fine conversations and it does not bother me. It’s just blends in with the generic white noise. However, that is not me. My voice carries, I know this. When trying to hear and be heard, what should be a relatively private conversation becomes anything but. You know some of the conversations I can have, between trying to adjust for personal volume and self censoring, my conversational input is nearly monosyllabic. I’d rather just wait until I am some place, where I can say what I want and how I want to say it. Again, it’s just my personal preference for me – YMMV.

  3. That whole thing about people being in the middle of a real conversation, their phone rings, they answer and suddenly the real…in person convo comes to a halt…kind of uncomfortable. I always think, “what should I do, do I leave, are we done…?” But of course I can’t ask them because they are in the middle of a conversation 🙂

    • Bingo ! You get your five minutes, but then it’s only fair to the other people (or the one person0, to inform the caller that you’re out with others and you’ll call them at another time. Anything over ten minutes is just rude, especially if you did not have the decency to at least excuse yourself from the group/table/whatever to have the extended conversation. Thanks Betsy.

    • Oh WakeUpAndWrite, I am quite familiar with Ms. Etiquette. While I am certain, Ms. Post would heartily approve of my personal phone rules, I have committed more than enough egregious errors and blatant disregard of other social graces to give her just pause. Thanks 🙂

  4. A-MEN! I’m even against plans, which come up from time to time, to install the equipment necessary to make cell phones usable in the subway. We don’t need to be continuously exposed to half-conversations which usually consist chiefly of yelling. I also feel the frustration of people interrupting conversations in order to answer the phone.

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