4 comments on “in public passing

  1. I agree about the snark factor, and especially where it applies to untimely deaths. I will also say that writing a line on FB to express one’s own personal stake in the loss seems appropriate. There is an aspect to FB obit postings that does bother me, though. There are some posters that seem to be engaging in “me-first-ism,” leaping to be the first to spread the news, and it seems it’s usually the same people who do this for any celebrity death. There may be no apparent snark, but neither any empathy shown- so the pattern, once noted, leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

  2. I’ve also considered the “also rans” offensive as well. You know, these are the people who would make jokes and ridicule someone during their lifetime, then suddenly jump on the “RIP” bandwagon when they die.

    I sort of met Whitney in 1986 in Philadelphia, fresh on the heels of meeting Chaka Khan at a Rizzoli bookstore appearance she made. Both had incredible voices, but while Chaka was gracious and engaging, Whitney was aloof and unapproachable. With that said, she was born to sing, not be friends with me, so I have always been a fan, and appreciated her vocal talents. More important, I have always resented how the media treated her, especially after her marriage to Bobby Brown.

    The media magnifies “situations”, and is capable of making people into villains, when in fact all they want to do is live their lives. Unfortunately, their celebrity status often does not allow them to do that. Take the case of Texas Ranger outfielder Josh Hamilton, a recovering alcoholic/drug addict. 2 weeks ago he was spotted drinking in a bar, and the media was all over it. While it’s obvious that he still has some demons, the media blew this out of proportion, and turned it into an event, when in fact the issue should be between him, his family, and his employer, who pays him $9 million a year. Typically however, as Whitney’s death has shown, these thing never end well, and I think we have the media to thank for that.

  3. There seems to be less and less compassion and mercy in this world. I can’t imagine what her family, especially her daughter must be going through and I think of this and so many things as someone who’s lost three family members to drugs. We still don’t even know the ‘why’s and wherefores’ but I don’t care, it’s just mean-spirited and displays a coldness and lack of human kindness. No, I did not know her. Yes, she may have thrown her life away. Yes, she was an adult and made her own decisions and drugs are bad, yes yes…but have a heart. The woman is dead. People loved her. She was a mother and wife and daughter and niece and friend and they’re grieving and to sit there in condemnation, dismissal and judgment may be self-satisfying but is reality is more of a reflection on you who judge, than on her.
    Whitney, you had a beautiful gift. Thank you for sharing it with us. Rest in Peace.

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