“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”Though often (mis)attibuted to John Lennon, the earliest certain source of the popular quote was by Marthe Troly-Curtin in her novel “Phrynette Married” (1912).
I used this exact opening a couple of weeks ago when I attempted to have a day vegetating. Today I use it response to a complaint.
“God! Every time I call! Why are always writing a story, or working out a poem, or you’re painting something. Pick something, ONE thing and be good, really good, perfect at it. Maybe you could make money off it and stop wasting your time.”
My pithy response: “I write and I paint because I like it and because I have no space for carpentry workshop and a kiln.”
Oh, there was so much to unpack with that loaded statement and her not understanding why I was offended by it.
What is with limiting a person to one form of expression? The whole pick one thing and be good/perfect at it nonsense, is in a word nonsense. Dion Sanders and Bo Jackson excelled in both baseball and football in their heydays. Venus and Serena Williams are both phenomenal tennis players and wonderful clothing designers. Several of Hollywood and UK actors also excel in other creative outlets. It’s Art. You know that thing like beauty is in the eye of? So who determines what’s good or God help us perfect creatively anyway? Who determines its clock value? Is the pursuit of a second passion for pleasure only limited to those those who can afford it? If it’s not making money, it is waste of time?
As I understand it Art students study other art to learn what’s good. Though they both use pointillism, no one is going to confuse a Seurat with a Lichtenstein, but they’re both good. Rembrandt, Warhol, Monet, Max, Michelangelo, Haring, Picasso, Van Gogh, Pollock, are all amazing artists, not one looks like the other and none of them did what they did to be “good.” The artists painted what they wanted, the way they wanted – period. That others cottoned on and made some of them renowned during their lifetimes was a lucky bonus. Some of the names mentioned were not famous, until after their deaths. It likely wasn’t perfect, to some of them. It may not have even been “good” to them, but you know what it was? Good enough to make them happy or they tried again until they were. They did it for they were inspired, because it pleased them. I am 10,000 percent sure someone had said to each them at some point “stop wasting time.”
Why must damn near everything in life sans breathing, and bathroom functions, can only be considered worthy of one’s time if it can also potentially line one’s wallet? Stop that nonsense! Elizabeth Barret Browning, Alex Haley, e.e. cummings, Arthur Conan Doyle, Langston Hughes, James Baldwin, Nikki Giovanni, Ernest Hemingway, Sylvia Plath, Octavia Butler, Stephen King, Diana Gabaldon, Andrew Wilmot, Amanda Gorman: none of them wrote their very first stories and poems, because they were out to make money, they wrote because they had stories to tell. It just so turned out that eventually others liked the stories as well. The rest is the luck, ill or otherwise, of the draw. But we know their names in the first place solely because they had a story they needed to tell. The story got told. It was not a waste of time.
We blog, and some of have regular followers, but the mass majority of us are not, nor have any intent to be “influencers.” Still, we blog because we have stories to tell, in words or in art or both.
I create because it pleases ME. The moment it becomes something I have to do to make money, it becomes a job. And knowing me – it will no longer be something I enjoy. I create the ways I do because I want to. I’m not trying to be good, I am having fun. That others enjoy it is wonderful, but is never the impetus for me to type out pixels or pick up my pencil or brush. It is always time well spent, even if I hate the result. On the outside I am an adult exuberantly expressing my creativity through mixed media. On the inside I’m a four-year-old happily making a mess scribbling and finger painting. Ask any preschooler…
…That is never a waste of time.
Slice of Life – Tuesday Writing Challenge
Two Writing Teachers
Oh Wow! I couldn’t agree with you more. We all need ways, not just one, to relax and vent our frustrations be that through blogging, painting, quilting, etc. We strive to be good at what we do, but perfection? If I had to be perfect I would do nothing because I would always find myself lacking. If I do something because I enjoy it the only one I need to please is me. If others like it, fine. If not, well so what. Hobbies are not jobs. If we remove the fun from them chances are that they will fall by the wayside.
Thanks, Arjeha. “If we remove the fun from them chances are that they will fall by the wayside.” So true for me.
Raivenne, that sound you here is me standing up, clapping and CHEERING. I feel this all so deeply. In many ways (at least to me), creativity is creativity is creativity. We all need outlets, and many of us have several. I love being able to do lots of things. I love LEARNING lots of new things, and I love putting something new into the world in whatever form that may take: a song, a poem, cookies…it is all a good use of my time.
Yes, Lainie, yes. Thank you.
I’m with you 100%, my friend! Whoever would say such a narrow-minded thing to you really needs to make some changes in the way they view life. Do they do nothing for the simple joy of it? How sad. I’m glad you have so many outlets! And glad I’ve gotten to share some of them with you! ❤
She does have fun interests, some of which I join in because they are among my many interests. Only when if it’s not an interest of “hers”, then its a waste of time unless it makes a profit otherwise why do it. I know this of about her and had fun calling her out on her BS. Thank you for some of the amazing shared experiences we’ve had!